Letting go of unrealistic expectations can lead to a happier life.
It goes without saying: nobody is perfect. We don’t expect anyone to be. That is a given. Well, anyone except for ourselves. In today’s world we are expected to provide. Perform. Excel. Have the best. Look the best. Be the best. Have the storybook family. The fairytale love story. The job. The body. The money. The answers. But what happens when we fail to meet those expectations?
If the pressure you are putting on yourself is unattainable, you are setting yourself up for failure and a life of unmet expectations. So, make a choice. Right here, right now. Keep putting undue pressure on yourself and be miserable or make some changes in your life and live happier. Fingers crossed, you choose the latter. It’s easier than you think. A healthier life consists of setting realistic goals for yourself and learning to say no. So forget about being perfect. Spoiler alert: it’s not going to happen.
Making a list of your daily goals allows you to organize your thoughts, times and overall schedule. Start by purchasing a daily planner and fill in your priorities first. Regardless of your ambition, setting unrealistic goals is setting yourself up for failure. Keep it simple. Group together errands that are in the same vicinity to avoid extra drive time. Have appointments to make? Don’t make too many on the same day. While it is tempting to squeeze in as much as possible in one afternoon, if one appointment runs late, then the rest of your schedule will be thrown off. And be sure not to overbook yourself and allow appropriate time between appointments. It is often suggested to add an additional 15-20 minutes of travel time to allow for unforeseen circumstances, like traffic.
Learn How to Say No
We all have people in our lives who ask us for things. you know why they keep coming back and asking for more? It’s because you never say no. Saying no to someone else is a tough thing to do. A hard habit to break. It’s all about setting boundaries for yourself and for your relationships. Remember that saying no does not mean that you are a bad friend or family member.
Regardless of how many roles we play, places we need to be or goals we strive to meet, there is no right way to live. We all feel the weight of personal pressures, but it is how we choose to live that makes the difference. The choice is yours.